Cheerilee is a strong, independent mare who don’t need no stallion (even when her cutie mark is an animation error). Source: My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic. Screencap.
Hearts and Hooves Day / Valentine’s Day can be a tender and sweet holiday, or an annoying obligation to spend money romancing your loved one, depending on who you ask. For a lot of people, however, it’s something a lot worse. It is a bitter reminder of their own loneliness. They haven’t found their special somepony, and all the lovey dovey hype this time of year just pours salt in the wound.
If you feel alone this Hearts and Hooves Day, I implore you to take this time to contemplate your friendships – the people in your life who catch you when you fall, who hug you when you break up with your significant other, the people who help you move, the people who check in on you when you’re in the hospital.
Because that’s the stuff real romance is made of, not a bunch of candles on a table propped up near some overpriced food.
Every couple of months, the newspapers grab a hold of a human interest story – a couple who has stayed happily married for 50, 60, 70 years. The reporter always asks the same question, “What’s your secret?” The answers always boil down to the same three things: trust, communication, and yes, friendship. While Hollywood sells us a fairy tale idea of romantic love, (and in the meantime, paint romantic partners and platonic friends as opposing forces in one’s life), the fact of the matter is if you’re not friends with your special somepony, your relationship simply doesn’t stand a chance. Friendship is the core foundation of any successful relationship.
From the moment we are born, we are bombarded from all directions with the idea that romantic love is what’s magical. What makes My Little Pony so revolutionary is that it puts forth the idea that friendship is magic. MLP is on to something. The bonds we form – the connections we make with our fellow human beings, regardless of whether they be romantic or platonic – that’s the stuff real magic is made of.
Celebrate that this Hearts and Hooves Day. Tell your friends how much you appreciate them, and all they’ve done for you over the years. Remind yourself just how much you matter to your friends.
Because love isn’t just for lovers. It is also an important ingredient in friendship, and as long as you have good healthy supportive friendships, you’re never really as alone as you may feel.
So celebrate love, celebrate friendship, celebrate every connection you make and every bond you form with your fellow human beings. If you’re feeling alone, look around you. Take stock of your friendships. Chances are you’ve got more magic in your life than you may think*.
*- If you do take a look around, and still find yourself low on true friends who have your back, don’t worry. You will find them. The series started with Princess Celestia sending Twilight Sparkle on a simple but sacred mission – to make friends. She did it; so can you. What better place to start than right here in the brony community?
Help! My Heart is Full of Pony! is now also a tumblr.